Is that not the most annoying phrase in the galaxy? Don’t have issues, don’t have concerns, don’t be angry/indignant/upset… You’re interfering with MY happiness! (My feelings being, by default, more important than yours. Obviously. Shhhh. Quiet now. Squelch. Censor. Stomp.) Don't harsh my squee.
I have, as I’ve gotten older, become slightly more wary of leaping onto "Other People’s Causes" – not of the believing in them, because belief is belief and right is right, but of the not talking about them out loud quite so often.
You run quite a bit of danger if you step outside the politics of your own identity, especially if you’re the least bit tetchy:
-- Overzealousness. Converts seem to tend towards being more rambunctious than those who are born-in, and it can get pretty outrageous to the native, who might possibly even see you as counterproductive. (Hell, you might even BE counterproductive.)
-- Hubris. Cockily, or lazily, assuming you understand or empathize more than you actually do; failing to shut up and LISTEN.
-- Being accused of not understanding the things that you really might, a little. Ass-U-ME-ing aboundeth.
--This phenomenon will never cease to amaze me -- those people who will listen to you talk and hear the exact opposite of what you said,
simply because your face/religious paraphernalia or lack thereof/gender/gender of partner does not mesh with expectation.
-- "What are you overcompensating for?" suspicion.
-- The option of nonchalance. Yes, this is a detriment. "Well, I can take a break, I don’t want to think about this right now." (Yes you most assuredly can, and think of what that means for those who cannot. Ever.)
This isn’t a comprehensive list at all.
Not really belonging messes with your credibility on both sides. Why are you talking like THEM when you’re really THIS? or, Don’t criticize because you don’t really get it, unless oh I see you’re really just like THEM all along anyway you traitor I expected as much. (You don’t really get to build up credit, per se.)
There are some advantages as well. I confess I have enjoyed the double-take that happens when I respond to something particularly ignorant with "Weeeeeeeelll, I’ve actually been
to Israel, and this than and the other thing, blah blah blah nuance-cakes," or, "no, you’re right, being gay ISN’T like being black, because for one this we have a built-in support and empathy structure in our families with they can’t necessarily depend on." But these fun things, while they can result in the lightbulb, can also result in backlash. 
So it’s a risk. And I am not a risk-taker. (I don’t think.)
But I am sick about the way the vote went down in California this week. I am sick that black Americans might have even remotely been the swing factor. (A multitude  of other factors went into this, but this is my group, and it’s the one I’m concerned about today.) I am disturbed that this is the mindset. I am disturbed at how counterintuitive it seems for a member of a group (I’m going to try continue to talk in terms of individuals) to be granted something and to then attempt to take something away from someone else. I am heartsick, over some young black kid who now knows that his family would vote against his future; I hate that my cousin and her wife are still made mock of by our family (although, I guess happily, she does not live in CA).
This week it hit me that suddenly, I feel like my countrymen sorta kinda see me as a full-fledged person -- this week, people who are not me had that taken (even more) away.
Other states passed measures far more draconian this week, but I honestly thought better of California. Far better. I doubted the presidential race from the get-go up until the 11 pm concession speech, but I never doubted California. Shows what I know about life. ( There's a lot under here. )
I am specifically enjoying the end of this article
:A new openly gay member of Congress, Jared Polis of Colorado, will go to the House in January. [...] Democrats took the New York senate. The entire New York legislature is now in Democratic hands, and New York's governor, David Paterson, is one of the nation's most eloquent pro-marriage-equality representatives. He is also, by the way, African American. Perhaps he can help bridge the gap between gays and blacks that widened on Nov. 4.
New York recognizes same-sex marriage but does not perform them. Our black, blind new governor has come out in support. So we will have an especial duty to not fuck this up,
New York.There is nothing on earth that has ever or could ever have turned my brain quite so completely backwards as the outcome of this election.
I desperately want to wallow in it, joyously, mindlessly, for days. DAYS. No, I did not believe it for a second, not until the concession speech was well underway -- I never, never, never
thought my country had this in
us, and I was wrong, and I am so, so ecstatic to have the opportunity to be ashamed of myself for that right now. Although I am still not shaving my head, Stefan.
But my squee is well and truly harshed. And you know? It needs harshing.We have a lot of work to do.( Footnotes. Yes, there are footnotes. )
(I can't believe this all FIT. I'd do better if I had a week of free time and some textbooks, guys; I'm sorry for any mistakes. Will probably come back to it, but I needed to get this off my chest.)